A lot of researchers will tell you that a link can’t be made between rape and pornography, or that they’re not sure yet if one exists. Meet someone who does know with certainty. “I saw her leave [Meijer] and, being unable to control my thoughts and emotions, I was in a fantasy,” he said. “I …
the Michigan legislature managed to do one thing that I found comforting and validating. They did one thing, probably in spite of themselves, that reassured me that what I endured in my past was, in fact, a crime. And for that, I’m thankful. What was this thing they did? They simply declared that strangling or smothering a person is a crime worth 10 years in prison.
Temira: How would you feel if the woman who got raped was someone close to you – would it still be a turn-on?
Fudd: Tery much so. Surprised?
Temira: Even as you watched her cry, or feel like hurting herself, or fall into depression?
Fudd: Yes, because I would encourage her to turn that depression and affliction into a sexual addiction
Though I have been sexually assaulted three times, I have never reported the attack or sought medical treatment. The first time, I was too young to know what had happened. The second, there was no penetration and I just wanted to forget about it. And the third, I thought I had to go to the police first, and I didn’t want to go to the police because I felt sure I would be blamed for what had happened.
When you meet a woman who has been raped, don’t judge her if she doesn’t react in the way you had expected. She has survived an ordeal most people will thankfully never know. It took a lot for her to get as far as she has. If she hasn’t done it the way you expected her to, it doesn’t matter. She’s a survivor all the same.
“I was dreading this night. I told myself it was because I didn’t think I could stand to hear some of you talk about your own experiences, but that wasn’t the truth. The truth is, it’s me. It’s me.”
Adam: Hi there Temira — did the men take their time with you?
Temira: What answer are you hoping for?
Adam: That is up to you — just tell me what happened