Cleveland: Not a happy ending – yet
Biography / Rape / Recovery / Survival

Cleveland: Not a happy ending – yet

Raped. Strangled. Kidnapped. It was horrifying to live through. It’s horrifying to realize. It is the reason why I can’t read a news story at work without feeling like I won’t be able to breathe, and why I have to run from the room when some television show or movie wants to titillate its audience with a depiction of sexual violence. And that was just six or so hours.

Years. These women endured years — about 87,672 hours, compared to my six. Continue reading

Breathing Easier
Biography / Legal System / Politics / Rape

Breathing Easier

the Michigan legislature managed to do one thing that I found comforting and validating. They did one thing, probably in spite of themselves, that reassured me that what I endured in my past was, in fact, a crime. And for that, I’m thankful. What was this thing they did? They simply declared that strangling or smothering a person is a crime worth 10 years in prison. Continue reading

So, begin.
Biography / CSA / Uncle

So, begin.

I remember the afternoon I went to take a nap on her bed. My aunt and uncle’s bed….But I only remember parts. I do remember the curtains, a yellow brown, and the color of sunlight that filtered through them. I remember the “Scientific American” magazine on the nightstand and how I struggled to understand it. I remember stretching out on the big bed with the pillows and stretching out to sleep. And then. And then… Continue reading

In Shadow
Biography / Coping / Rape / Survival

In Shadow

I’m haunted by something that happened years ago. In fact, several things that happened many years ago. I am the survivor of a violent rape and a less violent, but still upsetting, sexual assault. And years ago, when I was no more than 10, something happened that has left me with fuzzy memories and remembrances of things that just aren’t right. Continue reading