A lot of researchers will tell you that a link can’t be made between rape and pornography, or that they’re not sure yet if one exists. Meet someone who does know with certainty. “I saw her leave [Meijer] and, being unable to control my thoughts and emotions, I was in a fantasy,” he said. “I … Continue reading
Conversations with Rape Tourists: Shemp
Me: Does it bother you that it was the worst experience of my life?
Shemp: No Continue reading
Cleveland: Not a happy ending – yet
Raped. Strangled. Kidnapped. It was horrifying to live through. It’s horrifying to realize. It is the reason why I can’t read a news story at work without feeling like I won’t be able to breathe, and why I have to run from the room when some television show or movie wants to titillate its audience with a depiction of sexual violence. And that was just six or so hours.
Years. These women endured years — about 87,672 hours, compared to my six. Continue reading
Where consensual fantasy = consent or else.
I’m not here for anyone else’s entertainment than my own, and if I don’t feel like describing myself to someone, I don’t have to. And if you’re going to compel people to do it or threaten them with a ban, you don’t understand what “consensual” means. Continue reading
Breathing Easier
the Michigan legislature managed to do one thing that I found comforting and validating. They did one thing, probably in spite of themselves, that reassured me that what I endured in my past was, in fact, a crime. And for that, I’m thankful. What was this thing they did? They simply declared that strangling or smothering a person is a crime worth 10 years in prison. Continue reading
Apologies!
Apparently, my piece on women’s responses to rape was picked up and shared a bit over the past few days. I was away working on some campaigns, so I didn’t realize it until this morning. All comments have been approved, and I think you all inspired me to write again. I didn’t mean to leave … Continue reading
The Ugly Truth
I’ve not been a counselor for long. I’ve only had my limited license a little over a year. Add to that my internship experience and I’ve got a whopping two years of part-time, volunteer counseling under my belt. But in that time, I’ve heard things. Awful things. Things I could never have imagined are going … Continue reading
Legitimate.
I’ll never forget their faces, even though I only met with them once: A mother and daughter, both looking terribly shaken, both wishing they could be anywhere but where they were. Where they were was with me, inside a small room used for counseling at our local rape crisis center. They were there because the … Continue reading
Vagina is a 6 Letter Word
Vagina is a 6 Letter Word. Continue reading
Conversations with Rape Tourists: Fudd
Temira: How would you feel if the woman who got raped was someone close to you – would it still be a turn-on?
Fudd: Tery much so. Surprised?
Temira: Even as you watched her cry, or feel like hurting herself, or fall into depression?
Fudd: Yes, because I would encourage her to turn that depression and affliction into a sexual addiction Continue reading