I’ll never forget their faces, even though I only met with them once: A mother and daughter, both looking terribly shaken, both wishing they could be anywhere but where they were. Where they were was with me, inside a small room used for counseling at our local rape crisis center. They were there because the …
Vagina is a 6 Letter Word.
Temira: How would you feel if the woman who got raped was someone close to you – would it still be a turn-on?
Fudd: Tery much so. Surprised?
Temira: Even as you watched her cry, or feel like hurting herself, or fall into depression?
Fudd: Yes, because I would encourage her to turn that depression and affliction into a sexual addiction
Though I have been sexually assaulted three times, I have never reported the attack or sought medical treatment. The first time, I was too young to know what had happened. The second, there was no penetration and I just wanted to forget about it. And the third, I thought I had to go to the police first, and I didn’t want to go to the police because I felt sure I would be blamed for what had happened.
Of course, my uncle made noises about being pro-gay rights. He also talked a good game about not beating women and, I’m sure, about not harming kids.
When you meet a woman who has been raped, don’t judge her if she doesn’t react in the way you had expected. She has survived an ordeal most people will thankfully never know. It took a lot for her to get as far as she has. If she hasn’t done it the way you expected her to, it doesn’t matter. She’s a survivor all the same.
“I was dreading this night. I told myself it was because I didn’t think I could stand to hear some of you talk about your own experiences, but that wasn’t the truth. The truth is, it’s me. It’s me.”